…Mercy Michael Foundation Partners House of Worship Church and NBF to Host Medical Outreach.
It is true that no one has become poor by giving. The giver is always on top. In its drive towards giving back to society, Mercy Michael Foundation a not-for-profit NGO founded in 2017 committed to improving the health, educational and social wellbeing of members of society in conjunction with the Nigerian basketball Federation (NBF) and House of Worship Church carried out a free medical outreach for over 100 participants in an event hosted recently at the church premises at the Gilali event center in Wuse Zone 3 Abuja.
During the outreach, participants partook in comprehensive Health checkups and tests.
Speaking on the aim of the outreach, the coordinator of the Foundation, Mercy Michael pointed out that the outreach was geared towards allowing people to become aware of their current health status, since ignorance is deadly. According to her, the outreach is committed towards promoting the healthy wellbeing of the people through effective partnerships with a strong bias for girls, women/widows, children, aged and young people.
The following were services provided at the outreach: Health counselling, awareness and HIV screening, deworming of children/ Adult, distribution of Vitamin A and C supplement, testing for malaria, Hepatitis B and C, BP, Weight and Height check.
Speaking earlier on behalf of the Senior Pastor of the Church Pastor Skambo Morrison who doubles as a former National Captain of Nigeria’s National Basketball Team, (Pastor in charge of Admin,) Pastor Isaac noted that the program was organized for people to become aware of their health status.
“It is only when you are healthy that you can achieve your dream, purpose in life and become wealthy” he said. He emphasized that the outreach was a fantastic idea and timely; so that people can serve their God better.”
Participants who also engaged in various sporting activities prior to the medical outreach urged Nigerians not to be careless with their health and that knowing their health status is a key step towards becoming Wealthy. They advised everyone to eat right, rest well and abstain from wrong and unhealthy lifestyles.
Nigerian writer calls out people condemning Busola Dakolo for speaking out….
Bisi Adeleye-Fayemi, a Nigerian writer, has lent her voice to the trending molestation scandal as exposed by Busola Dakolo
In a lengthy post, the gender specialist condemned those who are shaming Busola for speaking her truth – The writer asked that women should be respected and treated better in the Nigerian society.
Read Post Below:
Loud Whispers: The Busola Moment
Last week, all hell was let loose when Mrs Busola Dakolo, wife of popular singer Timi Dakolo went public with her allegations that she was raped when she was 17 by Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of Commonwealth of Zion Assembly (COZA) Church. The details she revealed in her interview were shocking and heartbreaking. Predictably, sides were immediately taken and a social media war began, backed up with protests at the COZA churches in Lagos and Abuja. Pastor Fatoyinbo responded to the allegations against him, expressing his intention to seek legal redress for defamation. Shortly after, due to the intense pressure, he stepped aside as the Senior Pastor of COZA. Pastor Biodun will have his day in court, as is his right, the question though is which of the courts? The law courts or the court of public opinion? I am familiar with the politics of public lynchings of successful black men, this is not my concern or intention here. This is much bigger than the allegations levied against one individual. My concern is with contestations in the court of public opinion where both he and Mrs Dakolo are currently being tried.
Following the debates back and forth over the weekend, I observed a rather frightening trend. Over and over, supporters of the Pastor and some who claimed neutrality kept asking why Busola decided to speak up twenty years after the rape took place. Why is she speaking out now? Why did she not say something at the time? I could not believe some of the things people were saying, including those who ought to know better. Busola Dakolo and her husband Timi received unprecedented support for their bravery, the court of public opinion seems to be in their favour. However, I could not help but wonder how we got to where we are, a society blissfully unaware of the war that has been waged consistently on the bodies of women and girls from one generation to the next. Women don’t talk about what happened to them as girls or as adults because of the implications – shame, stigma, punishment, rejection. I am even more appalled at the number of women who have added their voices in the shaming of Busola. If you cannot say anything to support another woman in pain, say nothing. Keep quiet. If you are a fan of the accused Pastor, support him if you want, but you don’t have to call his accuser names.
I have had discussions with several people about the matter, and it struck me that there is so much we still need to educate ourselves about when it comes to sexual violence. First, there is the grim reality that the vast majority of women have one story or the other to tell, and there is no timeline on when a woman is ready to share her story. Second, is the enforcement of a culture of silence even by those who ought to be the ones at the frontlines of seeking justice, mainly parents and guardians. They are the ones who scuttle the efforts of law enforcement officers on the rare occasions such violations are brought to their attention. Third is the practice of ‘grooming’, which usually involves older men luring young women into a false sense of security and taking advantage of their innocence and naivety. And then there is the ‘Stockholm Syndrome’ factor, when victims held hostage by their captors develop feelings of trust and empathy for them.
What Busola Dakolo bravely did in sharing her pain with the whole world, warts and all, was create a ‘moment’. By doing this, she has unwittingly opened the floodgates for other women (and men) to find the words to speak their truths.
When I was ten years old, my mother brought a male teenage relative to live with us to help around the house. His name was Sina. He slept on a mattress on the floor with my younger brother, while I was on the bed with one of my young Aunts. One night, before I fell asleep, I felt my bed covers being pulled. I pulled them back up. It happened again and I did the same thing. The third time, I allowed the covers to be pulled off totally to be sure I was not making a mistake. I sat up and asked Sina what he was doing. He said ‘nothing’. I stayed awake for most of the night. First thing in the morning, I went to tell my mother. She did not yell at me. She did not scream and call me a liar. By the time I got back from school, Sina was gone and we never saw him again. We never had any male relatives live with us after that.
When I was in secondary school and home for the holidays, I was around thirteen at the time, I told my father I wanted to learn how to swim. There was this young man who lived next door, he used to run errands for my father, we called him Brother Lai. My father asked Brother Lai to take me and my Aunt to Airport Hotel, Ikeja, to teach us how to swim. My first swimming lesson was my last. Brother Lai held me from behind, teaching me how to kick my feet under the water, while at the same time pressing himself against me and touching me inappropriately. When I asked him why he was doing that, he asked, ‘Can’t I play with you’? The next day, when he came around for us to go for the next lesson, I refused. I never told my parents what happened, I just mumbled something about not liking water. I was afraid of causing trouble. I did not want Brother Lai to be sent away on my account, the same way Sina was frog marched to the motor park by my mother. I did not want my parents to think I was in some way encouraging these men to be inappropriate towards me. So, I said nothing, and just stayed out of Brother Lai’s way. Brother Lai had never given any indication that he was anything other than a respected older brother figure. I was however literally placed in his hands and he saw an opportunity and took advantage of it. That is what predators do, they wait for opportunities to present themselves and then they abuse trust and innocence.
With hindsight, I shudder at the naivety of my trusting parents. I however learnt to appreciate my mother’s response to my claims, it could have gone differently. What if my mother had not believed me? What if Brother Lai had come into our house and I had let him in, and he had proceeded to attack me in my own home?
The next time you ask the question what took Busola twenty years? think about all the women in your life and what they could tell you about the scars they have buried very deep. For me, this was the most painful epiphany over the past couple of days – the fact that we seem to have such limited capacity to understand the world women and girls live in when it comes to the issue of sexual violence and predatory behavior. As we go through life and encounter one predator after the other in our primary and secondary schools, tertiary institutions and the workplace, we believe that it is normal for men to feel entitled to our bodies, even when we are uninterested. I am fully aware that there are women who are sexual predators too, who have abused little boys and girls and some who throw themselves at men, mostly with transactional sex in mind. Sexual predators should be named and shamed regardless of their gender. Adult women and men who want to engage in consensual sexual relationships are welcome to their privacy, with emphasis on the words adult and consensual. Any adult who has a sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 18 is committing statutory rape, there is not such thing as consensual sex with a minor. This Busola moment presents quite a number of opportunities.
There is the issue of accountability in public spaces towards the protection of women from abuse and in this particular instance it is places of worship. Hopefully, this moment will push leaders in places of worship, churches and mosques alike, to take this issue seriously. From a purely business perspective (since this is the model many churches use) scandals are bad for the bottom line, so any establishment that wants to be a going concern has to invest in policies and processes to ensure sustainability. The same principle applies to all places of work and interaction, every institution should have a policy on sexual harassment and abuse. There is also an opportunity to revisit current laws and policies, frontline services for survivors and ongoing advocacy for a change in attitudes and behaviour. This is a moment where our rape and sexual violence statistics as a country have skyrocketed, leaving an endless trail of broken bodies and spirits.
A culture of misogyny has crept up on us on so many fronts and now disrespect and even hatred for women has become normalized. As I paused for a few minutes while I was writing this, I came across news of a serving Senator caught on camera beating up a woman in public. A video is circulating of four robbery suspects who were caught somewhere and only the three females were stripped naked. Shame on all the enablers of sexual violence in high and low places. Shame on those who always find excuses for serial sexual predators.
Shame on those who refuse to protect the innocent. Shame on those who silence the ones in our midst who live with their pain and suffering every day. Shame on the ignorant and the obtuse who speak faster than they can think. I stand with those with the courage to speak their truth at last. It is their story to tell on their own terms. I stand with all those who keep pushing for justice and truth. I stand with Busola Dakolo and the millions of women and girls who have a similar story to tell.
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From Henry with Love!
Pastor Fatoyinbo is the only fine boy pastor in Nigeria.
The devil is envious of his success and growth in ministry hence the serial accusations.
His ministry is so great that married people with kids are willing to form stories and accuse him of rape and have their names in the mud because you see… Exposing Fatoyinbo will “islamize Nigeria, kill the body of Christ”, others.
You see, it made Ese Walters so rich, she is now on Forbes. Just wait for the Dakolos…
So yea, this is “the great persecution.”
But Fatoyinbo and his standers must take solace from Scripture.
Persecution is NOT a bad thing.
Paul died in prison for preaching the gospel not because he was accused of taking advantage of young women and minors in his congregation. But he died anyway.
Paul didn’t have the wealth or the congregation of COZA, the comfort of a fine wife, AC cooling his body, money to lavish and extravagance to enjoy.
“Since you admire the egomaniacs of the pulpit so much (remember, this is your old friend, the fool, talking), let me try my hand at it. Do they brag of being Hebrews, Israelites, the pure race of Abraham? I’m their match.
Are they servants of Christ? I can go them one better. (I can’t believe I’m saying these things. It’s crazy to talk this way! But I started, and I’m going to finish.)
I’ve worked much harder, been jailed more often, beaten up more times than I can count, and at death’s door time after time. I’ve been flogged five times with the Jews’ thirty-nine lashes, beaten by Roman rods three times, pummeled with rocks once.
I’ve been shipwrecked three times, and immersed in the open sea for a night and a day. In hard traveling year in and year out, I’ve had to ford rivers, fend off robbers, struggle with friends, struggle with foes.
I’ve been at risk in the city, at risk in the country, endangered by desert sun and sea storm, and betrayed by those I thought were my brothers. I’ve known drudgery and hard labor, many a long and lonely night without sleep, many a missed meal, blasted by the cold, naked to the weather.
And that’s not the half of it, when you throw in the daily pressures and anxieties of all the churches. When someone gets to the end of his rope, I feel the desperation in my bones. When someone is duped into sin, an angry fire burns in my gut.
If I have to “brag” about myself, I’ll brag about the humiliations that make me like Jesus. The eternal and blessed God and Father of our Master Jesus knows I’m not lying. Remember the time I was in Damascus and the governor of King Aretas posted guards at the city gates to arrest me?
I crawled through a window in the wall, was let down in a basket, and had to run for my life.”
2 Corinthians 11:21-23, 23-33 MSG
So Paul was hungry? This is not when Paul just started ministry oh (because our own pastors believe that it is only okay to be modest in the first few years but once you hammer, private jet!)
So you mean Paul was hungry on many days?
Anyways, James says in James 1:2-4 (MSG)
“Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.”
You see? Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo count it all joy. Stop asking body of Christ to fight for you.
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Popcorn is more valuable than corn, but before it pops, it must be heated. You are valuable! Don’t get upset when challenges heat you up. God intends to pop your corn and release your value. Don’t let the heat make you bitter. It was intended to make you better.
A fool at 40 isn’t a fool forever. The founder of KFC, Harland Sanders was a failure who failed at almost everything in life until he used his talent for frying chicken to startup the business that became KFC. KFC was founded when he was 62!
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(Halima Oyelade reveals how to achieve that thing you want to be, do or have in life!)
Do you have a dream?
That thing you want to be, do or have?
- what is your dream?
- will you achieve it in your life time?
- I know you hope you will?
- But will you actually achieve it?
- What odds would you give yourself? 1 in 5, 1 in hundred…..
- How can you tell whether your chances are good or whether your dream reamain just that…..
- Are you willing to put your dream to the test?
According to John Maxwell a dream is an inspiring picture of the future that energizes your mind and emotions, empowering you to do everything you can to achieve it.
Six Takeaway Quotes from Halima’s “Live your dream” Master Class on WhatsApp about achieving your dreams and fulfilling purpose.
1. The gap between what you know and where you are in life is what you do. Dreams require you to stretch, to go beyond average. You can’t reach for a dream and remain safely mediocre at the same time.
2. Failure is the price we must pay for success. One of the worst prisons in life is the prison of what people will think. Truth is people will always think and talk. All the people who changed the world were risk takers in the sense that they dared to pursue their dreams.
3. The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: “Decide what you want”-Ben Stein. For example, if I say I want to lose weight that is a general idea, but if I say I will lose 20kg by 1st of September that is a specific goal.
4. A dream is free, the journey isn’t.
5. Love what you do and do what you love.
6. The price will be paid more than once. It’s possible to pay too much for your dream. Some people make so much money and end up without a family and nobody to share that wealth with. There must be a balance!
Halima Oyelade is the convener of #TimeoutWithHalima-A leadership and personal development programme and a certified coach, trainer and Speaker with the John Maxwell Team.
She is passionate about adding value to people’s lives and helping them maximize their potentials and live their dreams. Her sessions is aimed at equipping people to become exceptional men and women who thrive in life, business and career.
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Efforts of the Nigerian Government in combating human trafficking through the National Agency for the Prohibition of Trafficking in Persons (NAPTIP) has received commendation from the United States Government even as Nigeria has been upgraded from the Tier 2 watch list to Tier2 in the 2019 US Trafficking in Persons Report.
The development came on the heels of serious efforts on expanded awareness and stakeholder advocacy in all parts of the country embarked upon by the Director General of the Agency to increase the knowledge of the people on issues of human trafficking as well as victim protection and support.
The Report which was released recently by the US Secretary of State, Mike Pompeo an annual global assessment of the level of compliance of countries to the minimum standards in the eradication of trafficking in persons around the world.
It would be recalled that Nigeria had slipped from Tier 1 rating to Tier 2 watch list years ago due to some reasons connected with the prevailing security challenges in some parts of the country which placed additional burden on the frontline Agencies.
In the Report, the US Government stated that “The Government of Nigeria demonstrated overall increasing efforts compared to the previous reporting period; therefore, Nigeria was upgraded to Tier 2.”
The Report further stated that: “These efforts included supporting implementation of a 2017 action plan between Civilian Joint Task Force (CJTF), a government – supported non-governmental armed group, and an international organization to end its recruitment and use of child soldiers.
“The Government convicted significantly more traffickers than the previous reporting period and initiated prosecution against seven government officials allegedly complicit in trafficking.”
Speaking to newsmen, Director General of NAPTIP), Dame Julie Okah – Donli, disclosed that she received the Report with mixed feeling because she had expected Nigeria to be upgraded to Tier 1.
“Even though many people including partners of the Agency have been calling to congratulate me on the upgrading of Nigeria to Tier 2, I received the report with mixed feeling because I had expected Nigeria to top the tier 1 list.
First, I would like to thank the President and Commander –in- Chief, President Muhammadu Buhari and the Honourable Attorney General of the Federation, Abubakar Malami, for their support to the Agency within the period under review. The present administration has demonstrated the desired commitment and political will to combat human trafficking in the country.
“In the last one year, we have doubled our prosecution and number of convictions and revamped our strategies aimed at combating human trafficking through massive public enlightenment and awareness creation campaigns, advocacy as well as other preventive measures .
“We commenced the inauguration of State Task Forces Against Human Trafficking as one of our grassroots concepts to ensure States’ participation. Delta and Ondo States have fully taken off, Edo State Task Force that was earlier on inaugurated were trained while the Ekiti State Task Force will be inaugurated by Governor Kayode Fayemi next Monday 24th June, 2019. This project is bring sponsored by the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crimes, (UNODC)
“In addition, with the support of ECOWAS and IOM, we recently embarked on sensitization of border communities, Law Enforcement agencies and transporters within the Nigeria – Seme, Benin – Togo border corridor.
“We have just concluded advocacy and sensitization of key stakeholders in Lagos State with a visit to traditional rulers, schools and local government officials on the need to support the fight against human trafficking in the country,” the NAPTIP boss said.
The latest global commendation on the efforts of NAPTIP in combating human trafficking came barely few months after the Agency provided employment for three of the survivors of human trafficking rescued and sponsored through University education by the Agency and our civil society partners.