Flee From Copying The Wrong Things, Nentawe Yilwatda Goshwe Declares…..

Kemi Badenoch

Following the appointment of 39-year old Kemi Badenoch mother of two who spent most of her childhood in Lagos. A software and IT engineer, who studied systems engineering at Sussex University and also has a law degree; erudite lecturer at the Federal University of Agriculture Makurdi and Nigeria’s INEC Resident Electoral Commissioner (REC) for Benue state Dr. Nentawe Goshwe Yilwatda has this say. In his remark on a Facebook post, he said:

1. Nigeria and Nigerians must learn from this. You can live, contest and be appointed where you are best known 
2. Inclusivity of minorities to contest and be appointed. I can imagine the voting population of Nigerians in UK to deserve this “quota”. Some minorities can never be voted or appointed to certain position because of their voting population.
3. Diversity is the way forward and a lesson for Nigeria

We like copying the wrong things

Dr. Nentawe Goshwe Yilwatda

Kemi Badenoch has been the MP for Saffron Walden since 2017 and replaces Nadhim Zawahi who has moved to the Department for Business, Energy and Industrial Strategy (BEIS).

Olukemi Olufunto Badenoch was born in Wimbledon to parents of Nigerian origin. Her childhood was spent in Lagos, Nigeria and the US before she moved back to the UK at the age of 16.

She once told MPs in Parliament about her own experiences of poverty and how she used to do her homework by candlelight.

A software engineer, Ms Badenoch studied systems engineering at Sussex University and also has a law degree. As well as IT, she has worked in the banking sector for Coutts and RBS and is a mother of two.

Tweeting about her appointment, Kemi Badenoch @KemiBadenoch posted on 29 July: ‘Thank you for all good wishes and kind messages of support received. I also look forward to working not just with @Conservatives colleagues but cross-party and grateful for the warm welcome from @TracyBrabin and @Steve ReedMP who no doubt will be keeping me on my toes!’

The minister’s responsibilities include early years policy including inspection and regulation. Her portfolio includes delivery of 30 hours free childcare offer, special educational needs including high needs funding, safeguarding in schools and disadvantaged pupils – including pupil premium and pupil premium plus.

In her 2017 maiden speech as MP, the daughter of a GP and a physiology professor, described the vote for Brexit as “the greatest ever vote of confidence in the project of the United Kingdom”.

Last week, Boris Johnson sacked Damian Hinds and appointed Gavin Williamson to replace him as education secretary.

Mr Johnson’s brother Jo Johnson has been appointed into the Department for Education as universities minister and is also a minister of state in BEIS. Anne Milton, the apprenticeships and skills minister in the DfE quit last week, prior to Mr Johnson taking office as PM. Nick Gibb has been reappointed as schools minister in the DfE.

You Are Invited To The 9th GTBank Austism Conference

For the ninth year in a row, Africa’s foremost financial institution, Guaranty Trust Bank plc, will bring together some of the world’s leading experts in Autism for two days of critical discourse on supporting children and adults living with Autism in Africa. Organized as part of the GTBank’s Orange Ribbon Initiative, the Annual Autism Conference, will hold on the 30th and 31st of July 2019 at the MUSON Centre, Onikan, Lagos.

Themed, “Autism: Transitions, Vocational skills and The Role of Technology,” the Annual Autism Conference will bring to the fore the challenges facing children living with Autism as they grow into adulthood. The conference will feature presentations and keynote addresses on how to empower children and adults living with Autism to reach their full potential. Some of the facilitators include Dr. Loretta Burns, a leading expert in the field of neurodevelopmental disorders and the founder of ABE International Clinic; Dr. Tisa Hooper-Johnson, the Medical Director of the HFHS Center for Autism and Developmental Disabilities (CADD), USA;  Janette Washington, a speech-language pathologist with nearly a decade of experience working with children living with autism and other special needs; and Ivie Emokpae, a qualified special needs coordinator from the Institute of Education London.

Following the Autism conference will be free one-on-one consultations for children with Autism and other developmental challenges, as well as counselling for parents and guardians. There will also be sessions for Speech Therapy, Physical Therapy, Behaviour Analysis, Audiology, Clinical Psychology, Developmental Psychiatry, Physiotherapy, and Occupational Therapy. These sessions will hold from Thursday August 1st to Tuesday August 6th, 2019 at Digital Village, Alausa, Lagos.

Commenting on the 9th Annual Autism Awareness Conference, Segun Agbaje, the Chief Executive Officer of Guaranty Trust Bank plc, said; “Children and adults living with autism often lack the support and vocational training that they need to develop critical life skills for leading independent and productive lives. As an organization that is passionate about uplifting the most vulnerable in our society, we will continue to empower people living with autism with all the support and resources that they need to reach their full potential.”

Guaranty Trust Bank plc is a Nigerian financial institution that has maintained a defined Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) strategy since its inception in 1990. The Bank actively supports numerous programmes across Africa that positively affect Infant and Maternal Healthcare, Education, the Arts, Community Development and the Environment.

Life Is About Impacting Not About Incomes-1808 Foundation

Free medical outreach, gifts, joy, charity equals to impact!

1808 Foundation recently organised a free medical outreach for over 1000 participants including physically challenged people at Karamagiji village, Abuja and indeed it was said to show love to another person is to see the face of God.

The Founder, Leader Joseph Onus was joined by other partners from Mercy Michael Foundation, Purple Billion Initiative and other well meaning Nigerians.

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Report:How Mercy Michael Foundation Is Making Nigerians Healthy And Wealthy

…Mercy Michael Foundation Partners House of Worship Church and NBF to Host Medical Outreach.

It is true that no one has become poor by giving. The giver is always on top. In its drive towards giving back to society, Mercy Michael Foundation a not-for-profit NGO founded in 2017 committed to improving the health, educational and social wellbeing of members of society in conjunction with the Nigerian basketball Federation (NBF) and House of Worship Church carried out a free medical outreach for over 100 participants in an event hosted recently at the church premises at the Gilali event center in Wuse Zone 3 Abuja.

During the outreach, participants partook in comprehensive Health checkups and tests.

Speaking on the aim of the outreach, the coordinator of the Foundation, Mercy Michael pointed out that the outreach was geared towards allowing people to become aware of their current health status, since ignorance is deadly. According to her, the outreach is committed towards promoting the healthy wellbeing of the people through effective   partnerships with a strong bias for girls, women/widows, children, aged and young people.

The following were services provided at the outreach: Health counselling, awareness and HIV screening, deworming of children/ Adult, distribution of Vitamin A and C supplement, testing for malaria, Hepatitis B and C, BP, Weight and Height check.

Speaking earlier on behalf of the Senior Pastor of the Church Pastor Skambo Morrison who doubles as a former National Captain of Nigeria’s National Basketball Team, (Pastor in charge of Admin,) Pastor Isaac noted that the program was organized for people to become aware of their health status.

“It is only when you are healthy that you can achieve your dream, purpose in life and become wealthy” he said. He emphasized that the outreach was a fantastic idea and timely; so that people can serve their God better.”

Participants who also engaged in various sporting activities prior to the medical outreach urged Nigerians not to be careless with their health and that knowing their health status is a key step towards becoming Wealthy. They advised everyone to eat right, rest well and abstain from wrong and unhealthy lifestyles.

Brother Lai Held Me From Behind, Can’t I Play with You?

Nigerian writer calls out people condemning Busola Dakolo for speaking out….

Bisi Adeleye-Fayemi, a Nigerian writer, has lent her voice to the trending molestation scandal as exposed by Busola Dakolo

In a lengthy post, the gender specialist condemned those who are shaming Busola for speaking her truth – The writer asked that women should be respected and treated better in the Nigerian society.

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Loud Whispers: The Busola Moment

Last week, all hell was let loose when Mrs Busola Dakolo, wife of popular singer Timi Dakolo went public with her allegations that she was raped when she was 17 by Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of Commonwealth of Zion Assembly (COZA) Church. The details she revealed in her interview were shocking and heartbreaking. Predictably, sides were immediately taken and a social media war began, backed up with protests at the COZA churches in Lagos and Abuja. Pastor Fatoyinbo responded to the allegations against him, expressing his intention to seek legal redress for defamation. Shortly after, due to the intense pressure, he stepped aside as the Senior Pastor of COZA. Pastor Biodun will have his day in court, as is his right, the question though is which of the courts? The law courts or the court of public opinion? I am familiar with the politics of public lynchings of successful black men, this is not my concern or intention here. This is much bigger than the allegations levied against one individual. My concern is with contestations in the court of public opinion where both he and Mrs Dakolo are currently being tried.

Following the debates back and forth over the weekend, I observed a rather frightening trend. Over and over, supporters of the Pastor and some who claimed neutrality kept asking why Busola decided to speak up twenty years after the rape took place. Why is she speaking out now? Why did she not say something at the time? I could not believe some of the things people were saying, including those who ought to know better. Busola Dakolo and her husband Timi received unprecedented support for their bravery, the court of public opinion seems to be in their favour. However, I could not help but wonder how we got to where we are, a society blissfully unaware of the war that has been waged consistently on the bodies of women and girls from one generation to the next. Women don’t talk about what happened to them as girls or as adults because of the implications – shame, stigma, punishment, rejection. I am even more appalled at the number of women who have added their voices in the shaming of Busola. If you cannot say anything to support another woman in pain, say nothing. Keep quiet. If you are a fan of the accused Pastor, support him if you want, but you don’t have to call his accuser names.

I have had discussions with several people about the matter, and it struck me that there is so much we still need to educate ourselves about when it comes to sexual violence. First, there is the grim reality that the vast majority of women have one story or the other to tell, and there is no timeline on when a woman is ready to share her story. Second, is the enforcement of a culture of silence even by those who ought to be the ones at the frontlines of seeking justice, mainly parents and guardians. They are the ones who scuttle the efforts of law enforcement officers on the rare occasions such violations are brought to their attention. Third is the practice of ‘grooming’, which usually involves older men luring young women into a false sense of security and taking advantage of their innocence and naivety. And then there is the ‘Stockholm Syndrome’ factor, when victims held hostage by their captors develop feelings of trust and empathy for them.

What Busola Dakolo bravely did in sharing her pain with the whole world, warts and all, was create a ‘moment’. By doing this, she has unwittingly opened the floodgates for other women (and men) to find the words to speak their truths.

When I was ten years old, my mother brought a male teenage relative to live with us to help around the house. His name was Sina. He slept on a mattress on the floor with my younger brother, while I was on the bed with one of my young Aunts. One night, before I fell asleep, I felt my bed covers being pulled. I pulled them back up. It happened again and I did the same thing. The third time, I allowed the covers to be pulled off totally to be sure I was not making a mistake. I sat up and asked Sina what he was doing. He said ‘nothing’. I stayed awake for most of the night. First thing in the morning, I went to tell my mother. She did not yell at me. She did not scream and call me a liar. By the time I got back from school, Sina was gone and we never saw him again. We never had any male relatives live with us after that.

When I was in secondary school and home for the holidays, I was around thirteen at the time, I told my father I wanted to learn how to swim. There was this young man who lived next door, he used to run errands for my father, we called him Brother Lai. My father asked Brother Lai to take me and my Aunt to Airport Hotel, Ikeja, to teach us how to swim. My first swimming lesson was my last. Brother Lai held me from behind, teaching me how to kick my feet under the water, while at the same time pressing himself against me and touching me inappropriately. When I asked him why he was doing that, he asked, ‘Can’t I play with you’? The next day, when he came around for us to go for the next lesson, I refused. I never told my parents what happened, I just mumbled something about not liking water. I was afraid of causing trouble. I did not want Brother Lai to be sent away on my account, the same way Sina was frog marched to the motor park by my mother. I did not want my parents to think I was in some way encouraging these men to be inappropriate towards me. So, I said nothing, and just stayed out of Brother Lai’s way. Brother Lai had never given any indication that he was anything other than a respected older brother figure. I was however literally placed in his hands and he saw an opportunity and took advantage of it. That is what predators do, they wait for opportunities to present themselves and then they abuse trust and innocence.

With hindsight, I shudder at the naivety of my trusting parents. I however learnt to appreciate my mother’s response to my claims, it could have gone differently. What if my mother had not believed me? What if Brother Lai had come into our house and I had let him in, and he had proceeded to attack me in my own home?

The next time you ask the question what took Busola twenty years? think about all the women in your life and what they could tell you about the scars they have buried very deep. For me, this was the most painful epiphany over the past couple of days – the fact that we seem to have such limited capacity to understand the world women and girls live in when it comes to the issue of sexual violence and predatory behavior. As we go through life and encounter one predator after the other in our primary and secondary schools, tertiary institutions and the workplace, we believe that it is normal for men to feel entitled to our bodies, even when we are uninterested. I am fully aware that there are women who are sexual predators too, who have abused little boys and girls and some who throw themselves at men, mostly with transactional sex in mind. Sexual predators should be named and shamed regardless of their gender. Adult women and men who want to engage in consensual sexual relationships are welcome to their privacy, with emphasis on the words adult and consensual. Any adult who has a sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 18 is committing statutory rape, there is not such thing as consensual sex with a minor. This Busola moment presents quite a number of opportunities.

There is the issue of accountability in public spaces towards the protection of women from abuse and in this particular instance it is places of worship. Hopefully, this moment will push leaders in places of worship, churches and mosques alike, to take this issue seriously. From a purely business perspective (since this is the model many churches use) scandals are bad for the bottom line, so any establishment that wants to be a going concern has to invest in policies and processes to ensure sustainability. The same principle applies to all places of work and interaction, every institution should have a policy on sexual harassment and abuse. There is also an opportunity to revisit current laws and policies, frontline services for survivors and ongoing advocacy for a change in attitudes and behaviour. This is a moment where our rape and sexual violence statistics as a country have skyrocketed, leaving an endless trail of broken bodies and spirits.

A culture of misogyny has crept up on us on so many fronts and now disrespect and even hatred for women has become normalized. As I paused for a few minutes while I was writing this, I came across news of a serving Senator caught on camera beating up a woman in public. A video is circulating of four robbery suspects who were caught somewhere and only the three females were stripped naked. Shame on all the enablers of sexual violence in high and low places. Shame on those who always find excuses for serial sexual predators.

Shame on those who refuse to protect the innocent. Shame on those who silence the ones in our midst who live with their pain and suffering every day. Shame on the ignorant and the obtuse who speak faster than they can think. I stand with those with the courage to speak their truth at last. It is their story to tell on their own terms. I stand with all those who keep pushing for justice and truth. I stand with Busola Dakolo and the millions of women and girls who have a similar story to tell.

Bisi Adeleye-Fayemi is a Gender Specialist, Social Entrepreneur and Writer. She is the Founder of Abovewhispers.com, an online community for women. She can be reached at BAF@abovewhispers.com

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Post a new product on a regular schedule and be consistent in your branding. By making things nice and predictable for your customers, you’ll find that they come back again and again.

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For me, it was when I won best dancer at my greatest rival’s 8th birthday party.

Imagine – this nonsense Chidi boy used one mark to pass me in English exam. The way I danced at that his house ehn, you would think that the prize was more than Spiderman lunch pack and flask. 

Anyway, since then – any time I hear anything like awoof, my ear automatically stands.

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